tajeemissjets-deactivated201201 asked: harmony. i kno that we hardly kno each other,let alone have ever really spoken to each other aside from some prehistoric facebook small talk. but i feel so lost n i really need someone to talk to. not just about my current situation. but in general. i chose not to associate with so many people simply because of their negative ideas n outlooks on life n how reflective it became towards me. its not hard to see that u have a clear mind n a good head on ur shoulders. (please read next post)
…i hope that you dont mind me turning to u. i do not want to use u for ur advice. im turning to u in hopes of having a genuine, honest, n uplifting friend. thank u for taking the time to read this. - taj”
Hey beautiful, let me start by saying that I’m really proud of you for not going on anonymous and really personally asking me for advice. Don’t ever think that I would resort to thinking that you’re using me for advice, by all means do so.
Let me start by saying this: WEAK PEOPLE MAKE YOU WEAK. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Stop putting your own wants on the backburner. I duly commit empathy on this situation because I am actually a living receipt of these issues that you’ve presented. I live in Barstow, I have no friends, I have no one that calls me to see how I’m doing, I text about the same two people not even every day, and to top it all off, I have facebook/tumblr/twitter fans, but no one is really ever there. What I need you to realize is that, if you don’t have friends because you are particular about your company, GOOD FOR YOU. Don’t let anyone into your inner circle that isn’t fit for the endurance of your pace. Don’t let anyone into your mental state unless they belong there. Do NOT compromise yourself for anyone. That is one of my New Year’s resolutions. I constantly compromise my mind and my vocabulary for people undeserving of even my small talk. I hate small talk. If those people you’ve dropped choose to gossip, complain, boast, lie, whatever have you, then let them. Whoever they are should never ever justify who you are. The actions and speeches of low lives will never be your business. What IS your business is your own personal growth, your conscious decisions to be better, and your moral consistency. If you choose to surround yourself with people who are of moral lesser value, you better be strong enough to not let the influences get you down. If not, then feel no shame or guilt for having no friends. That gives you personal time to rethink your own morals, plan out ways to get on top, and just alone time to dream. I’m sorry you are going through this terrible transition, but fill up all of that idle time that you used to reserve for error ass people and devote it to small ways of achieving SOME kind of success, whether it be financially, morally, or even artistically. I have never been so alone in my life than I am now with no friends, no one to call or call me, no one to check up, just a 9-5 every day with my family all moved out of the country, but I’ll have you know that, though I am alone in this world (with the exception of my wonderful boyfriend) I am the least bit lonely than I’ve ever been in my life. I find myself most when I am alone and I am a great person to talk to, a wonderful teacher, and an empathetic listener.
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” -Oscar Wilde
I know that probably wasn’t advice, but usually when I answer my tumblr questions, it’s anonymous or I don’t personally know the person, but I’m offering this to you because I know you and I have personal compassion for your situation so I just ranted, here at work, for the past 30 minutes lol. I would wanna hang out with you, plus you’re cute & all the flyest girls are on my squad.
I’ll leave you with this-
If you are the smartest in your crew, you are in the wrong crew.