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50 QUESTIONS THAT WILL FREE YOUR MIND

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire.  They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend.  The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.  What do you do?
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do?  What’s holding you back?
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
22. Why are you, you?
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
25. What are you most grateful for?
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
27. Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset?  Does it really matter now?
30. What is your happiest childhood memory?  What makes it so special?
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
32. If not now, then when?
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
48. What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday?  What about the day before that?  Or the day before that?
50. Decisions are being made right now.  The question is:  Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?

tajeemissjets-deactivated201201 asked: harmony. i kno that we hardly kno each other,let alone have ever really spoken to each other aside from some prehistoric facebook small talk. but i feel so lost n i really need someone to talk to. not just about my current situation. but in general. i chose not to associate with so many people simply because of their negative ideas n outlooks on life n how reflective it became towards me. its not hard to see that u have a clear mind n a good head on ur shoulders. (please read next post)

…i hope that you dont mind me turning to u. i do not want to use u for ur advice. im turning to u in hopes of having a genuine, honest, n uplifting friend. thank u for taking the time to read this. - taj”

Hey beautiful, let me start by saying that I’m really proud of you for not going on anonymous and really personally asking me for advice. Don’t ever think that I would resort to thinking that you’re using me for advice, by all means do so.

Let me start by saying this: WEAK PEOPLE MAKE YOU WEAK. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Stop putting your own wants on the backburner. I duly commit empathy on this situation because I am actually a living receipt of these issues that you’ve presented. I live in Barstow, I have no friends, I have no one that calls me to see how I’m doing, I text about the same two people not even every day, and to top it all off, I have facebook/tumblr/twitter fans, but no one is really ever there. What I need you to realize is that, if you don’t have friends because you are particular about your company, GOOD FOR YOU. Don’t let anyone into your inner circle that isn’t fit for the endurance of your pace. Don’t let anyone into your mental state unless they belong there. Do NOT compromise yourself for anyone. That is one of my New Year’s resolutions. I constantly compromise my mind and my vocabulary for people undeserving of even my small talk. I hate small talk. If those people you’ve dropped choose to gossip, complain, boast, lie, whatever have you, then let them. Whoever they are should never ever justify who you are. The actions and speeches of low lives will never be your business. What IS your business is your own personal growth, your conscious decisions to be better, and your moral consistency. If you choose to surround yourself with people who are of moral lesser value, you better be strong enough to not let the influences get you down. If not, then feel no shame or guilt for having no friends. That gives you personal time to rethink your own morals, plan out ways to get on top, and just alone time to dream. I’m sorry you are going through this terrible transition, but fill up all of that idle time that you used to reserve for error ass people and devote it to small ways of achieving SOME kind of success, whether it be financially, morally, or even artistically. I have never been so alone in my life than I am now with no friends, no one to call or call me, no one to check up, just a 9-5 every day with my family all moved out of the country, but I’ll have you know that, though I am alone in this world (with the exception of my wonderful boyfriend) I am the least bit lonely than I’ve ever been in my life. I find myself most when I am alone and I am a great person to talk to, a wonderful teacher, and an empathetic listener.

“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.” -Oscar Wilde

I know that probably wasn’t advice, but usually when I answer my tumblr questions, it’s anonymous or I don’t personally know the person, but I’m offering this to you because I know you and I have personal compassion for your situation so I just ranted, here at work, for the past 30 minutes lol. I would wanna hang out with you, plus you’re cute & all the flyest girls are on my squad.

I’ll leave you with this-

If you are the smartest in your crew, you are in the wrong crew.

Anonymous asked: What's the best thing to do while giving a blowjob? To make sure the guy I's pleasured

These are just a few steps to make a blowjob more enhanced. Find your own moves, but honestly, just enjoy yourself. If you don’t, he’ll be able to tell, he won’t enjoy it, and why are you down there anyway?

1. NO teeth

2. Look up

3. Get it and keep it wet and hard

4. Use both hands, not just your mouth. Mouth on the head, right hand on the shaft, left hand grabbing his balls. Multitask girl!

5. Don’t be afraid to moan of enjoyment

6. Enjoy yourself! Find pleasure in pleasuring your man. It will make the experience better for you and better for him.

7. Let him watch spit fall out of your mouth onto his head and suck it back up after going all the way down his shaft.

8. Tilt your head sideways and put his head on the inside part of your cheek and pop it softly out of your mouth while looking at him.

9. Swallowing is the best gift you can give to your man, mouth open.

10. If you don’t wanna finish him off, finish with a bang, literally.

SAY THANK YOU, for fuck’s sake.

The capacity of my heart will always supersede the capacity of my income, but I am getting sick and tired of giving to people who are ungrateful. Don’t think that just because of my high income that I do not have internal wars about paying my bills vs. making your day or buying you lunch or something. I’m not complaining, but if you all were more thankful and grateful, I would give even more, but since some people aren’t, plan on me reorganize my Christmas gift roster.

& For those of you who ARE grateful, I wanna say thank you for your thank you’s because I appreciate your appreciation.

on “maturity”.

Just because you’ve been through shit, don’t mean you’re grown. Everyone has hardships. You’ve grown when you’ve stopped being bitter about your past and started being better from it. When you presently plan on manifesting everything you’ve learned from your past for your future, THAT’S maturity.

Anonymous asked: Have you experienced or witnessed a situation where someone 21+ dated someone who wasn't 21 yet, and there were relationship problems because they couldn't always go out together? or a situation where there was complete trust between a couple, despite the age.

I was in that relationship hahaha. I was with Bryson for about 2-3 years and he was 21 when I was 18, but we had known each other for many years before that. Anyway, to put things into perspective- I’m STILL not 21 and it didn’t exactly pose problems, but the social barrier was starting to appear.

Anyway, a similar situation came afloat in my ask box a few weeks back on the same thing you are inquiring about:

Anonymous asked: What are you opinions on my situation? I’m 16 and he’s 21. We’ve slept together once after getting tipsy. I’m catching feelings. He might be too. Is there any hope? Am I faking myself?

First off, though I may be a third degree hypocrite, know I am speaking from experience and not condemnation.

If you are under the legal age of fornication, you should stop. If you are under the legal age of drinking, you should stop.

Of course you are catching feelings. When women have sex, there is a hormone that releases in your body that makes you feel attached, maternal, orgasmic, but loads you with anxiety from pair bonding. It’s called oxytocin, I swear, look it up. I need to hear more about the story to really offer you insight on my personal opinions if there is any hope, but darling, faking yourself is the least of your worries right now. What you should be worried about are the more practical things like is the sex really worth it to potentially get this man in jail? Is the man you might be catching feelings for really worth it seeing as though he’s 21 and sleeping with a 16 year old? A TIPSY one, at that. Is the man you want to marry (and I know that I throw that word out there loosely, but a boyfriend you choose should always be a potential husband, otherwise you are wasting your time and investments in love) a man you met at a party? Who lets minors drink? Who is a desperate fiend for sex with a minor? I use the word desperate impersonally and solely just to emphasize how illegal this is. You are only 16! Go get your drivers license! Study for finals! Blog about your problems! Let your parents pay your bills for you! Do 16 year old things! TRUUUUUST ME WHEN I SAY, especially from experience of the things I wish I could erase and do over, FUCK love (right now). Fuck heartbreak. Fuck what you think it is. Fuck the alcohol and drugs that impairs your vision of it.

I’m not saying this because of your adolescent age, I’m saying this because EVERYONE’S ideal love and expectations of it are going to change even one year from now. Your “ideal” now may be polar opposite to your “ideal” a year from now. The only love you should be worrying about is the way you fall in love with YOU. Especially at 16. Your hormones are dancing around on a roller coaster. You might lose yourself in a society like ours. Heed this, while your hormones are doing you no justice right now at your age, work on you. You’re stuck with you anyway, every day, for the rest of your life. Go love yourself. And on top of that, go LIKE yourself as well. Now, by no means am I degrading you or saying that you’re too young to fall in love, but fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

And stop drinking, think about the people out there with failing livers and kidneys, painfully bloating up with water from failed transplants of sympathetic and sacrificial donors while you decide to physically and willingly abuse yours.

Anonymous asked: I don't think you're a slut for being sexual with your boyfriend. I actually admire it! I can only dream of doing the things you do with him. Just don't have the confidence in myself for it. Ex: dancing on him. Mad props my dear! Any advice for someone like me?

I have a 5’2” boyish figure, broad shoulders, twiggy legs, small b cups, tiny behind cupcakes, a small pudge on my tummy, and my hair grows in kind of fast. I’m explaining this because I am explaining that I am human. I am not the perfect, skinny model type of girl that some people make me out to be. We all have our imperfections, but I have been blessed to find a guy that loves everything that I hate about myself. He loves my insides more than my out, no sexual pun intended. He taught me to love me in my own skin because the most sexy thing about me is my mind, any type of physical figure would only be a plus. So as a response to your request- Feel sexy for YOU, not for your boyfriend. Confidence is sexier than any type of lingerie.

Anonymous asked: What are you opinions on my situation? I'm 16 and he's 21. We've slept together once after getting tipsy. I'm catching feelings. He might be too. Is there any hope? Am I faking myself?

First off, though I may be a third degree hypocrite, know I am speaking from experience and not condemnation.

If you are under the legal age of fornication, you should stop. If you are under the legal age of drinking, you should stop.

Of course you are catching feelings. When women have sex, there is a hormone that releases in your body that makes you feel attached, maternal, orgasmic, but loads you with anxiety from pair bonding. It’s called oxytocin, I swear, look it up. I need to hear more about the story to really offer you insight on my personal opinions if there is any hope, but darling, faking yourself is the least of your worries right now. What you should be worried about are the more practical things like is the sex really worth it to potentially get this man in jail? Is the man you might be catching feelings for really worth it seeing as though he’s 21 and sleeping with a 16 year old? A TIPSY one, at that. Is the man you want to marry (and I know that I throw that word out there loosely, but a boyfriend you choose should always be a potential husband, otherwise you are wasting your time and investments in love) a man you met at a party? Who lets minors drink? Who is a desperate fiend for sex with a minor? I use the word desperate impersonally and solely just to emphasize how illegal this is. You are only 16! Go get your drivers license! Study for finals! Blog about your problems! Let your parents pay your bills for you! Do 16 year old things! TRUUUUUST ME WHEN I SAY, especially from experience of the things I wish I could erase and do over, FUCK love (right now). Fuck heartbreak. Fuck what you think it is. Fuck the alcohol and drugs that impairs your vision of it.

I’m not saying this because of your adolescent age, I’m saying this because EVERYONE’S ideal love and expectations of it are going to change even one year from now. Your “ideal” now may be polar opposite to your “ideal” a year from now. The only love you should be worrying about is the way you fall in love with YOU. Especially at 16. Your hormones are dancing around on a roller coaster. You might lose yourself in a society like ours. Heed this, while your hormones are doing you no justice right now at your age, work on you. You’re stuck with you anyway, every day, for the rest of your life. Go love yourself. And on top of that, go LIKE yourself as well. Now, by no means am I degrading you or saying that you’re too young to fall in love, but fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

And stop drinking, think about the people out there with failing livers and kidneys, painfully bloating up with water from failed transplants of sympathetic and sacrificial donors while you decide to physically and willingly abuse yours.

Thank you for posting/shouting out, Telly. <3

my boyfriend understands my legitimate, clinical phobias, nurtures them, and saves the day. every day.

Me, Austin, & our kids.